Postman Spoils Long-Awaited WW2 Homecoming

I remember my Gran (Phyllis Grace Geake, nee Weaver) once telling me what happened the day my Grandpa (William Hellyer Geake) arrived home from the second world war, having been away for four years.

It was fairly early in the morning when Grandpa got home and his arrival coincided with that of the postman (or it might have been the milkman but I think it was the former). The postman knew Grandpa and proceeded to ask him all about his time away in the war and stood at the doorstep chatting for 5 or 10 minutes. How insensitive! All the while, Gran was waiting to greet the husband she hadn’t seen for such a long time. In addition to this, Grandpa had never even met his 4 year old daughter, who was more than a little coy at the sight of this strange man in their house! Gran said the postman ruined their reunion.

My Grandpa's WWII Service Record

My Grandpa’s WWII Service Record (click to enlarge)

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Doing The Deed!

The Deed is done! What Deed?…I hear you say. The Deed Poll, that’s what!

No this isn’t a riddle or a joke and it’s not a hypothetical either. For some time now, I’ve been considering incorporating my maiden name back into my name. My interest in family history, together with a strong desire to identify with my heritage, has spurred this decision on. So I ordered a pack from UK Deed Poll Service – and now I’m officially called Anne Mary Hibbitt BARNES.

I’m an advocate for the institution of marriage and have no desire to have a different surname to my husband so Hibbitt is now my second middle name, although it was my surname at birth. For any married women out there who don’t want to completely abandon their maiden name, a Deed Poll is an excellent way of keeping hold of it.

As to my Christian name, although informally I like to be known as Annie (and I shall continue in this vein), I decided that I should still formally be known as Anne. This is, and always has been, my proper name (given to me at birth and the one I was baptized with) and therefore, I don’t think I should want to change it now. In effect, all I have done is put back what was mine in the first instance, not altering or adding to it.

Of course, most people won’t notice anything different but I will know and that’s important to me. From now on, I can put Hibbitt on official forms. I’ve yet to complete the task of changing all my official documents – for some this could be laborious and is what has made me hesitate until now. However, getting ones documents changed is part of the point of it, as well as being a legal requirement, so I’ve finally bitten the bullet and gone for it.

Once more, I have that connection with my blood line reflected in my name. Who knows, maybe a descendant will stumble across my headstone in 200 years time, or discover me in the paper trail (or digital footprint), see the name and make that connection too!

[UPDATE: Somewhat ironically, a few years after changing my name, I discovered through DNA testing that my Hibbitt line doesn’t go back many generations after all. Nevertheless, it remains my name at birth and is therefore, still very important to me.]

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The Defence Of Rorke’s Drift By Alphonse De Neuville

After my recent stay in hospital, Harvey (my hubby) decided to cheer me up by presenting me with a large print of a famous painting by Alphonse-Marie-Adolphe de Neuville entitled ‘The Defence of Rorke’s Drift’. The print measures approximately 110 x 75cm, including the frame, and hangs conveniently in my stairwell.

Followers of my blog will know that I’m distantly related to 716 Pte. Robert Jones V.C., who took part in the battle on 22nd/23rd January 1879. Whilst there are many different paintings of the event, this is my personal favourite.

The Defence of Rorke's Drift by Alphonse de Neuville

The Defence of Rorke’s Drift by Alphonse de Neuville (click to enlarge)

Created in 1880, the original oil painting was commissioned by the Fine Art Society in London. It was bought by the Art Gallery of New South Wales in 1882 and is still amongst the collection to this day.

The caption underneath the print reads…

THE DEFENCE OF RORKE’S DRIFT
22nd January 1879

On January 22nd 1879, during the Zulu War, the small British field hospital and supply depot at Rorke’s Drift in Natal was the site of one of the most heroic military defences of all time. Manned by 140 troops of the 24th Regiment, led by Lieutenant John Chard of the Royal Engineers, the camp was attacked by a well-trained and well-equipped Zulu army of 4000 men, heartened by the great Zulu victory over the British forces at Isandhlwana earlier on the same day. The battle began in mid afternoon, when British remnants of the defeat at Isandhlwana struggled into the camp. Anticipating trouble, Chard set his small force to guard the perimeter fence but, when the Zulu attack began, the Zulus came faster than the British could shoot and the camp was soon overcome. The thatched roof of the hospital was fired by Zulu spears wrapped in burning grass and even some of the sick and the dying were dragged from their beds and pressed into desperate hand-to-hand fighting. Eventually, Chard gave the order to withdraw from the perimeter and to take position in a smaller compound, protected by a hastily assembled barricade of boxes and it was from behind this barricade that the garrison fought for their lives throughout the night. After twelve hours of battle, the camp was destroyed, the hospital had burned to the ground, seventeen British lay dead and ten were wounded. However, the Zulus had been repulsed and over 400 of their men killed. The Battle of Rorke’s Drift is one of the greatest examples of bravery and heroism in British military history. Nine men were awarded Distinguished Conduct Medals and eleven, the most ever given for a single battle, received the highest military honour of all, the Victoria Cross.

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Spotlight On Uncle Tom & Auntie Nellie Smale

I remember Uncle Tom (Thomas Smale) very well – he lived to be 95 years old and died in 1991. He came to my house when our son was a baby and we had a photograph taken of 5 generations but I seem to have mislaid the picture for the moment. The generations included, our son, me, my mum, my gran [Phyllis Grace Geake (nee Weaver)] and Uncle Tom, who was my gran’s uncle. I can remember visiting him once at his home in Sunshine Terrace in Tavistock, however, there were numerous times when I met him at my grandparents’ house. I can’t remember if I ever met Auntie Nellie (Nellie, nee Ball) – I might have done.

I’ve managed to find a colour picture of Tom & Nellie in one of my gran’s photo albums. It looks as though it was taken on the same day as an old newspaper cutting that I have announcing their golden wedding anniversary.

Tom Smale & Nellie (nee Ball)

Tom Smale & Nellie (nee Ball)

The cutting mentions that the couple met at the Lydford Pony Show. Does anyone have any further information about this event? If so, please contact me. Their wedding day in 1924 at Gulworthy Parish Church, was apparently a wash-out with torrential rain!

Some time after Auntie Nellie died, Uncle Tom gave me a little ivorine Book of Common Prayer which had belonged to her. I vaguely recall he left a vase to my gran in his will and I believe my brother has a Crown Derby tea set that was once Tom and Nellie’s.

Uncle Tom was a signalman on the railways and he still used to ride his bicycle when he was well into his 90’s.

My gran told me that Uncle Tom and Auntie Nellie had wanted to adopt her after her own grandmother, who was looking after her, died. Gran was 9 years old and an orphan. At that stage, Uncle Tom and Auntie Nellie had only been married a very short time so how true this story is, I’m not sure. The couple never had any children of their own so it might have been something they may have expressed retrospectively. In the event, my gran went to live with another aunt and uncle because reportedly, they were in greater need of the extra cash that was available for orphans from the First World War. This is not to suggest that they weren’t good ‘parents’ to her because they were.

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“Three Other Ranks Were Killed” – How Pte Weaver Met His Death

There’s a story which has been passed down through our family about how, on 8th September 1916, my great-grandfather, Henry James Weaver, died. During WWI, he was reportedly killed alongside two others by a bomb or hand grenade accidentally detonating in a soldier’s hand while resting at the base in France after serving in the trenches.

My gran told me this a number of years ago. I’ve often wondered about the accurancy of the information because the details must have been second-hand; gran was orphaned before the age of 5.

Henry James Weaver's Memorial Plaque (Death Penny)

Henry James Weaver’s Memorial Plaque (Death Penny)

The family has two pieces of evidence to support the story, or at least the fact of it having been an accident. Firstly, a photograph issued by the War Office showing the original wooden cross on Henry’s grave. The inscription on the cross mentions Henry was ‘accidentally killed’. The second piece of evidence is a death notice in an old newspaper cutting which my gran kept for most of her life. Dated 1921, the notice is about gran’s mother but it includes the following….

“…Pathos is added to this very sad case by the fact that Mrs. Weaver’s husband, who was a private in the Oxford and Bucks Light Infantry during the war, was killed by a bomb at the base in France just after leaving the trenches for a brief respite…”

Of course, I wasn’t sure if this was published on the basis of what the family had told the newspaper so I still needed further evidence.

A few days ago, I posted a message in the Great War Forum and another member very kindly responded. He had a copy of the war diary for the 2/1 Battalion Oxfordshire and Buckingham Light Infantry – Henry’s battalion. The story bears out…

LE GRAND PACAUT

3-7
09/16

Nil.

8/09/16

At noon a Bombing accident occurred, owing to the premature explosion of a Bomb. The Battn. Q.M. – LIEUT. D WALLER and the Bombing Officer 2/Lieut. A.J. SMEE 3rd WILTS, attached 2/1 BUCKS Bn. were both wounded. Three other Ranks were killed and 4 other Ranks were wounded.

9. – 10.
/09/16

Nil.

Five words, ‘Three other Ranks were killed’, makes for stark reading when you consider this phrase embodies the tragic news of the death of my great-grandfather.

What heartbreak for my great-grandmother, Florence. Married less than a year, she was heavily pregnant at the time. It’s believed the news arrived around the time she gave birth to my gran, ten days after Henry’s death, but that she wasn’t told until my gran was ten days old. Apparently Florence was becoming increasingly anxious to know why she hadn’t heard from Henry. It doesn’t bear thinking about! No wonder Henry’s headstone reads…

IN LOVING MEMORY OF
MY DEAR HUSBAND
FROM HIS SORROWING
WIFE AND CHILD

When Florence died of meningitis, my gran was left without parents. To add insult to injury, gran passed the necessary exams to qualify for the grammar school but, because she had no father, another girl was given her place. Times were certainly tough. Such missed opportunities!

Despite various set-backs, gran was the type of woman who rolled up her sleeves and got on with it. She was full of vitality and always offered hospitality. There was certainly no side to her. Perhaps her difficult start in life was what grounded her.

I’ve posted before about how gran always wanted to see her father’s grave, something she finally did at the age of 83.

Incidentally, the Quartermaster who was wounded was a Daniel Waller, born in Great Chishill, Cambridgeshire. He survived the war and lived until 1950, aged 82.

Having served in the Wiltshire Regiment, Arthur Joseph Smee went on to join the Royal Air Force but was killed in a flying accident on 28th October 1918, aged 23.

The two other men who were killed with Henry were Lance-Sergeant AW Mead and Private JS Litchfield. The three of them are buried beside each other in Merville Communal Cemetery Extension in Merville, France.

Henry’s name appears on the War Memorial in his home town of Curry Rivel, Somerset, and also in Tavistock, Devon, Florence’s home town.

[Update: since I first posted, I’ve managed to obtain a copy of the War Diary and have seen for myself the record of Henry’s death.]

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